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Some House Keeping, Sort Of

January 27, 2012

I’d like to say something about why I disappear from Cuntlove once in a while. There are a few reasons why I go through periods of not posting as much. For one, I’ve been doing freelance blogging for two different adult industry blogs for the last year or so, and it’s sometimes difficult to write about sex positive issues after writing about sex all day, which brings me to my second reason.

Sometimes, I don’t feel like writing about anything that pertains to Cuntlove’s theme(s). When I first started this blog, I wanted it to fit into a particular niche… I wanted it to be all sex positive, educational, feminist, and let’s all love ourselves, etc, etc, and while all those things are still important to me, I sometimes feel like I’ve written myself into a box.

I’ve won a couple blogging awards of the sexiest blog type, and I feel that if I don’t keep writing about sex I’ll somehow be disappointing people. When I first started reading about blogging, I read a couple of articles that said it was important to pick a niche and to stick with it, so as to not alienate your readers.

It’s good advice, it makes sense. The people who come here to read posts about female ejaculation might not like reading about that time I felt sad because my ex is dating someone new, and the people who like my more personal posts might get annoyed when I write about pornstar Bobbi Starr and her pubes.

The thing is, I can’t make everyone happy. I can only write what I feel like writing about at the time.

In the beginning, writing Cuntlove was freeing, because I didn’t have a sense of what people expected from me as a writer, as a blogger, I could do anything. Now, I think about “oh no, what if my aunt reads this” or “what if this post falls below expectations.”

It’s enough of that, I say. No more second guessing. I can only be myself! It’s the best any of use can do. Sure, I’m insecure sometimes, but I’m willing to put it all out there, to put myself on the line for better or worse. Balls out so to speak. No more house limit.

8 Comments leave one →
  1. Wayne permalink
    January 27, 2012 8:17 am

    Well I for one enjoy your blogs no matter what the subject matter! And the fact that I have been remiss in commenting back to you recently doesn’t mean I don’t read all of your posts!

  2. January 27, 2012 9:13 am

    Thanks Wayne!

  3. ladyyaga permalink
    January 27, 2012 10:08 am

    Nice! I like the variety. It’s more like being a one-woman newspaper than thinking of yourself as a particular column in that newspaper. Or writing from a certain perspective, rather than necessarily about a certain subject matter. I think that’s more interesting for the writer and the audience. Maybe the whole niche thing is more about marketing than it is about creativity?

  4. January 27, 2012 10:37 am

    Haha, a one woman newspaper, I like that. It’s true though, the niche thing was definitely aimed at people who wanted to market their blogs and become famous, etc. I’m glad to hear you like the variety. Sometimes, I do go from one extreme to the other though, I’m sure I’ve lost readers because of it. Whatever, what I like the most is hearing back from people and starting some kind of dialogue.

  5. January 27, 2012 10:47 am

    The trouble is, when you start to write blogs about a particular subject (in my case about the menopause and the use of HRT), you soon start to run out of interesting things to say, so you diversify and that, by the very nature, entails writing about things that those who merely want to read about your primary subject could find objectionable. You have to accept that you will please most of the people most of the time, but not all.
    Besides, variety brings in new readers, some of who may never have thought of reading about something on HRT, but because I wrote about female ejaculation, or what it feels like to try a threesome, they end up reading about the menopause and develop a better understanding of the subject.
    You carry on sweetheart, Cuntlove is still one of the 4 or 5 blogs I go out of my way to check out regularly.

  6. January 27, 2012 10:50 am

    Thanks Naturegirl1, nice to hear from you, I thought you had disappeared.

  7. January 28, 2012 12:52 am

    I love this new affirmation. Write for yourself first and foremost! I’m willing to read. Yeah! 🙂

  8. January 28, 2012 12:08 pm

    Hell fucking yes.

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