“Nothing is TMI, Unless It’s Boring”
Here’s an excerpt so you get the gist of it:
Why is it TMI and uncouth for a woman to say she got HPV from her husband? Would it be equally TMI for her to admit that she got, say, chicken pox from him? I ask because Ayelet Waldman posted a few tweets today about HPV, in the aftermath of Michele Bachmann whining that HPV vaccinations intrude on parents’ rights (sure, enjoy your polio and measles also). Waldman said she got HPV in a monogamous marriage, and ended up with cancerous cervical lesions. The New York Observer called it “a new height in oversharing.” New York Mag’s Daily Intel also covered it. And people on Twitter were like, OMG TMI BE A LADY YOU’RE BEING PUNISHED FOR BEING SUCH A SLUT SO BE QUIET ABOUT IT.
Read the rest of the post here.
It reminds me of that woman (I forget her name or her occupation) who tweeted about having a miscarriage and the whole world pretty much crashed down on her head, because she had the nerve to speak publicly about such a private matter.
I think we make certain situations (i.e. rape, stds, miscarriages) worse by making them taboo subjects of conversation. We’re just adding shame and a whole other bunch of messed up shit on top of shitty situations. If you don’t want to talk about it fine, that’s you’re business, but to tear someone apart for having the nerve to talk about something so “private” really doesn’t help anyone, especially the ones going through it in the first place.
Those of you who know me know I don’t think there are any taboo subjects. There’s no limit in my house. However, it’s unrealistic of me to hope or think the rest of the world is the same. I just wish people would examine the reasons why they won’t talk about certain things or why they get offended when other people do.
There are some very private people out there, and that’s fine. We need different types of people to make this world such a great and interesting place to live in, but when that need for privacy or censorship comes from a place of shame, condescension, or some fucked up imagined higher moral ground, I’m just not okay with that.