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Don’t Fuck With my Gay Friends

October 16, 2010

One of my friends posted the FCKH8 video on facebook yesterday and since then I’ve watched it a half dozen times. I don’t know what I love more, the anti-hate message or the use of the word fuck. It’s a tough call.

The Video

Awesome, I say!

The T-Shirt


What’s this Prop 8 business?

Proposition 8 (or the California Marriage Protection Act) was a ballot proposition and constitutional amendment passed in the November 2008, state elections. The measure added a new provision, Section 7.5 of the Declaration of Rights, to the California Constitution, which provides that “only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.

By restricting the definition of marriage to opposite-sex couples, the proposition overturned the California Supreme Court’s ruling of In re Marriage Cases that same-sex couples have a constitutional right to marry. The wording of Proposition 8 was precisely the same as that which had been found in Proposition 22, which, as an ordinary statute, had been invalidated by the Supreme Court. California’s State Constitution put Proposition 8 into immediate effect the day after the election. The proposition did not affect domestic partnerships in Californiaor same-sex marriages performed before November 5, 2008.

Proponents of the constitutional amendment argued that exclusively heterosexual marriage was “an essential institution of society,” that leaving the constitution unchanged would “result in public schools teaching our kids that gay marriage is okay,” and that “gays … do not have the right to redefine marriage for everyone else.” Opponents argued that “the freedom to marry is fundamental to our society,” that the California constitution “should guarantee the same freedom and rights to everyone” and that the proposition “mandates one set of rules for gay and lesbian couples and another set for everyone else.” They also argued that “equality under the law is a fundamental constitutional guarantee” (see Equal Protection Clause).

The campaigns for and against Proposition 8 raised $39.9 million and $43.3 million, respectively, becoming the highest-funded campaign on any state ballot and surpassing every campaign in the country in spending except the presidential contest. After the elections, demonstrations and protests occurred across the state and nation. Same-sex couples and government entities filed numerous lawsuits with the California Supreme Court challenging the proposition’s validity and effect on previously administered same-sex marriages. In the Strauss v. Horton case, the court upheld Proposition 8, but allowed existing same-sex marriages to stand (under the Grandfather clause principle). United States district court Judge Vaughn R. Walker overturned Proposition 8 on August 4, 2010 in the case Perry v. Schwarzenegger.Judge Walker issued an injunction against enforcing Proposition 8 and a stay to determine suspension of his ruling pending appeal. The Ninth Circuit Court Of Appeals continued the stay, keeping Judge Walker’s ruling on hold pending appeal. (Wikipedia)

My Little Rant!

The fight for equal rights in terms of gay marriage gets a lot of flack from other activists (even gay rights activists), because 1. a lot of people no longer believe in the institution of marriage and 2. there are other rights that are deemed more “important” than being able to get married.

It really pisses me off when people critique something by saying there are more important issues or when they pit one social cause against another saying that one is more worthy. It’s bullshit. And it’s an especially frequent pile of bull when it comes to pitting the civil rights movement against the gay rights movement. One side claiming they’ve had it worse than the other and blah, blah, blah. Another example. When it comes to gender roles women aren’t the only one that have gotten it bad.

Who the hell cares who has gotten it worse? Who the hell cares if the institution of marriage is in need of its own critique? People should be allowed to marry who the hell they fancy. Saying that gay people can’t get married is tantamount to not recognizing women or black people as full citizens and refusing them the right to vote. No matter what your feelings are about marriage, anyone should be able to see how wrong Prop 8 or anything like it is. The fact that a huge segment of society is anti-gay makes me so sad… Frankly, I just don’t understand why or how anyone can hate like that.

What You Can Do!

Five bucks from every t-shirt sold (buttons and bumper stickers) from the FCKH8 website will be donated to one of “the following groups leading the fight against Prop 8 and working for marriage equality across the U.S.”

American Foundation for Equal Rights

Equality California

Courage Campaign

Lambda Legal

Not a t-shirt wearing kind of person?  Better yet, donate your money directly to one of the aforementioned organizations or any organization that advocates for equal rights wherever you live. I’m Canadian and I say fuck prop 8, and fuck hate. What about you, what do you say?

6 Comments leave one →
  1. Nicole permalink
    October 18, 2010 1:16 pm

    It seems an extremely valid to question marriage as the pinnacle in queer struggle, and im queer for cryin out loud. After all, marriage is an institution created by the state to create units for capitalist expansion, not to mention gay couples becoming the hottest new market for wedding junk.

    I’m pro-gay marriage and agree that it just seems stupid-obvious that two consenting adults be legally allowed to wed, but FOR SERIOUS this is taking up a shit-ton of resources while we are criminalizing people living with HIV, teaching kids shit sex-ed, and queer kids are living on the street.

    I’m really darn tired of (some) same-sex marriage activists saying that racism and sexism have been conquered, and that “marriage” is the final frontier. While marriage laws are indicative of greater homophobia, we need to acknowledge these greater (and arguable more important) struggles that continue around us.

    there is a great resource on this argument, Ima find it asap!

  2. October 18, 2010 9:39 pm

    Those are all GREAT points, Nicole.

    Anyone who says that racism, and sexism are conquered is full of shit and really need to open their eyes. I feel like society will say the same of homophobia once gay people are allows to get married. Like, a piece of legislation will solve all problems. It’s sort of like putting a band-aid over an amputated leg and pretending like all will be fine now.

    I mean I love the band-aid, and want the band-aid, but it’s definitely not the final frontier.

    And….I’d like to second the “darn tired” part.

  3. October 22, 2010 5:39 am

    wow! just wow!

  4. October 22, 2010 8:09 pm

    Awesome video. I will spread it around a bit. It was funny and classy (even with the F bomb) while getting the point across.

  5. October 23, 2010 2:41 pm

    @ Bricona and Inferno: Welcome to Cuntlove and thanks for commenting.


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