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A List of Oral Sex DOs!

May 5, 2010

Oral sex is a favorite topic of conversations among, well, a lot of people, frankly. What we like, what we don’t like, how to perform a particular manoeuver, why in god’s name would you want to, not want to, etc, etc. I’ve never been privy to a bunch of guys sitting around a kitchen table drinking wine and discussing what it’s like to eat pussy, I have however, witnessed the opposite more than a few times and eating cock is not a subject of conversation I am new to. This might totally be gender biased on my part here, but I feel like women are much more prone and comfortable sharing their insecurities, questions, and good ol’ advice with one another than men are. Grocery store checkouts are lined with magazines with articles telling women “how to please their men” and although Cosmo will never go as far as telling you “how to cradle a man’s balls”, it does make it easier to breach the subject. Seriously, though, I wonder, where do guys get their “how to” information? From one another? Trial and error? Porn? You tell me. 

In an effort to equalize the playing field, I’d like a little help from all of you guys and girls in creating a Dos list for Oral Sex whether it’s eating pussy or cock. Basically, what do you like best when you’re on the receiving end. That’s right, what do you like having done to you when someone is between your legs? Go on, I know you can think of a least one thing you would like to had to the list. To start things off, I will list one thing that I like, which will count as number one. Now, number two will have to be posted by you, dear reader, in the comment section. And on and on the list shall go. To make things a little more interesting, I’d also like for you to post one question about oral sex (giving or receiving) that you would like answered by your fellow readers. Only use the reply function in the comment section if you are answering someone’s question, otherwise comment as usual. 

Here goes…

(Suddenly, I feel rather shy.)

1. I like it when I’m stroking my clit and my partner will join in and mingle his tongue with my fingers. Alternating between sucking and licking my fingers and my clit. 

And my question is…

a. I was reading last night, this book that I had bought when I was 17 or something, titled “Sex tips for straight women from a gay man”, anyhow, at one point they talk about swallowing and how everyone makes a big deal about it, but that in reality no one really cares that much and that guys are just as enthused watching themselves ejaculate. So I was wondering, what is the deal with swallowing? It is as big of a turn on as everyone would have us believe or is it just one of those things that kind of took on a life of its own? 

Now, it’s your turn. Don’t be shy. It’s for the good of mankind. 

28 Comments leave one →
  1. Liz permalink
    May 5, 2010 8:00 pm

    This is rather interesting.

    I’d have to say it’s a really, really soft rhythmic motion. Yep. That’s simple. The softer the better. That’s #1 for me. #2 is taking that motion and then gently pulling away for a split second, then moving back in. It’s fucking ridiculous.

    I wish I had a question but I can’t think of one. I’m just generally curious to learn about what men prefer.

  2. May 5, 2010 8:31 pm

    Nice, I think these will be hard to read for anyone who is single.

  3. May 5, 2010 11:03 pm

    I need something in my pussy at the same time. Fingers or toys, I don’t mind, but I love the dual stimulation! I also prefer solid stroking licks combined with firm sucking on my clit.

    A question for the more experienced: What do I do with a LARGE cock? I’m talking well over 6 inches in circumference. I find my teeth get in on the action very quickly.

  4. RaeAn permalink
    May 5, 2010 11:06 pm

    Why would it be hard for us single chicks to read? I have a vibrator and a healthy imagination — I have no problem obtaining material for that imagination from others’ likes and suggestions. 🙂

  5. May 5, 2010 11:45 pm

    So do I, and good point. It was just my subtle way of saying that was hot and I want some.

  6. May 5, 2010 11:49 pm

    Look up some TMJ (which is short for Tight Muscle Jaw syndrome) exercises online. They’ll have some good ones that will help keep your jaw nice and limber. There’s the old lips over teeth techniques, which when your talking that big in circumference might not be that helpful. I guess do what you can, and use a variety of hand techniques to get as much coverage as possible.

  7. wayne permalink
    May 5, 2010 11:57 pm

    I’m gonna depart from the format abit, lol. I think the thing about swallowing, for me at least, is that when a lady has no inhibitions about having my cum in her mouth it’s a turn on because of the intimacy it implies. I’m really oral, and I believe that (alluding back to the previous blog) if I want or expect that a lady is going to have my bodily fluids near or in her mouth then I better be willing to do the same, so to take it to the nexst step I should (and have) no problem intermingling our fluids and tastes durring afterplay or timeouts. Okay, the thing that really does it for me when someone is doing oral on me is for her to lightly use her nails on my balls right at the moment when I orgasm. My question I guess would be if all women are so sensative after climax that they prefer I wait a bit before trying to get them off again, or is it okay to just slurp up my reward while priming her for another orgasm?

  8. May 6, 2010 12:12 am

    I think everyone is different in regards to the whole sensitivity thing, but my personal take on it is to reduce pressure and stop all movements for just a little while and then slowly to start up again and then go for it. All of which can be done in a relatively small span, but for me anyways, you gotta keep some contact going…just less…wait….and then go. Hum, hard to explain.

  9. May 6, 2010 4:14 am

    What do I like? Lets see…. hmmm

    Well, I dunno if other guys are the same, but I really like a lot of attention paid to my balls during a blowjob. Licking them, sucking (gently) on them, holding them, etc. I like it just as much if not more than the attention paid to my cock.

    I also really like the sensation of deep throat, mostly her lips bumping into rock bottom — where my dick meets my body. That is pretty much heaven, right there. I know it can be quite a task to do this, and that is what makes it so special. That she would put so much effort into my pleasure is simply a huge fucking turn on.

    As far as what is the most sensitive, the area around the base of the head of my dick, for sure. Anything done there (flicking of the tongue, nibbling, licking) is gonna get a big reaction.

  10. naturegirl1 permalink
    May 6, 2010 4:37 am

    I really REALLY like it when Phil goes down on me after he has come inside me. There is something incredibly erotic with the notion that he is performing oral sex on me even though his semen is is sloshing around down there! And in the cold light of day, it’s quite comforting to know that my husband is not phased by his own secretions.
    My question would be: as a gal who gags at the thought of swallowing semen, do you guys prefer it if we let you come in our mouths then spit or would you rather come elsewhere, ie face, boobs etc?
    I have to admit to feeling a bit of a hypocrite sometimes as Phil will happily let me ejaculate in his mouth and swallow, while I could count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I have swallowed his semen!

  11. naturegirl1 permalink
    May 6, 2010 4:42 am

    We’re all different, I’ve mentioned this before somewhere, but I can have several (sometimes many!) climaxes, but I only have one full blown orgasm. I can take continued stimulation after my climaxes, any amount of it in fact, but once I’ve had my orgasm, that’s it. My whole genital area becomes a no-go zone for at least 10 to 15 minutes.

  12. naturegirl1 permalink
    May 6, 2010 5:54 am

    I’ve thought of a couple more!
    Do ask your partner if she minds if you come in her mouth, we hate unpleasant surprises. Yes, it could be said we should make things like that clear before the event, but in the heat of the moment……
    Also, don’t just concentrate on the clitoris, we like having our labia licked as well. Try drawing a figure of eight with your tongue starting at the clitoris, down one side of the labia all the way to the perineum (that’s a nice bit to have licked) then back up the other side to the starting point.Or you could try rubbing the clit with he tip of your nose while using your tongue on the perineum or even slipping your tongue into the vagina.
    So many possibilities….so little time….

  13. River permalink
    May 6, 2010 1:54 pm

    As for swallowing or even cum in the mouth– I would recommend everyone go read up on safer sex practices and at least keep them in mind :o)

    As a gay man who has a vagina and a very large clitoris who has gone down on men who have penises and men who have clits and women who have clits and women who have penises– I would like to point out the very real fact that transgender people exist and we have lots of sex too. Including oral :o) So yeah man does not always = penis and woman does not always = vagina. Just saying.

    I only like the top part of my clit licked and sucked (that is wonderful!) but I don’t like any penetration of my cunt at all ever. That’s what my ass was made for 😉 Do we get to include rimming in oral? Yes? I’m going to say yes. I love rimming- giving and receiving.

  14. May 6, 2010 5:20 pm

    ROBIN!!! I miss our late night chats dude. Nice to see you here. Thanks for the input.

    I think a lot of people are afraid of balls, because we’ve been taught from an early age that you can really hurt someone there. Always good to receive some pointers.

  15. May 6, 2010 5:30 pm

    Save oral sex practices, yes, I here you there. Oral sex seems to be the least thought of in terms of safer sex. I can quite easily be done with a condom though if your partner isn’t someone you know well enough or if you guys haven’t been tested or whatever your reason for not wanting to have unprotected sex with them.

    I hear ya, in terms of penis doesn’t always equal man and vice versa, this is above all a conversation about what pleases you no matter your sexual orientation or how you define your gender. I apologize if the use of pronouns in this case hasn’t been all inclusive.

    And yes, anything you can do to the ass with your mouth is included in oral. Thanks for your input.

  16. May 6, 2010 5:43 pm

    The fact of the matter is, not everyone will have a sex talk before actually having sex with one another. I might be wrong here, but I think for some people discussing those things can be a little sensitive. Partners tend to feel each other out before discussing specifics of what they like. So, it’s very probable that you’ll find yourself in a situation where someone might be about to cum in your mouth before you’ve ever talked about the eventuality. I don’t know, I guess if you want to cum in someone’s mouth…ask…and if you don’t want someone to cum in your mouth…tell.

    I agree though, about sometimes too much attention being given to the clit. Sure, generally it’s the key to getting someone off, but soooo many other things feel good too and so many of those things play a role in having a spectacular orgasm. For a rough comparison here, focusing entirely on the clit is like focusing entirely on the head of a cock. Sure it feels good and it might be all you need in some circumstances, but damn you’d be missing out on a whole lot of other sensations if that were the case.

  17. May 6, 2010 5:45 pm

    It does seem like a little bit of a contradictory situation. Can I ask why the thought of semen in your mouth makes you gag?

  18. May 6, 2010 6:11 pm

    (TemperoMandibular Joint syndrome) :o)
    I’ve got a month or so before this well endowed young man reaches my city, so I’ll have to start my workout routine soon!

  19. May 6, 2010 6:52 pm

    Shoot, I knew I got that acronym wrong! Well, you found it anyways. Good luck. Let me know if you discover something helpful.

  20. naturegirl1 permalink
    May 7, 2010 2:17 am

    It’s the viscosity I think, reminds me too much of phlegm! Urgh, I feel sick just talking about that stuff. Besides, I don’t mind semen in my mouth to much, it’s swallowing that makes me gag.

  21. naturegirl1 permalink
    May 7, 2010 2:20 am

    Rimming undoubtedly has a place, straight from the shower or bathtub I’m quite partial to having my anus licked, but only fingertips to be inserted please!

  22. May 12, 2010 1:30 am

    I have always enjoyed performing oral. The taste, smell, and just the ability to offer a woman pleasure is a big turn on. The thing I notice most is how women regard themselves. I personally like a little odor and flavor, but most women I have gone down on insist on scrubbing it squeaky clean. I hate the taste of soap, sorry.
    As long as the recipient has bathed that morning, or if morning sex, the night before, I enjoy it, although I AM personally turned off by the idea of eating my own cum out of her pussy.
    When I first began, I had no idea about female anatomy, and just basically dove in like a dog eating mayonaise. My HS sweet heart was no help either. I some times wonder if she even knew about her own anatomy. I just lapped at her very wet vagina. In nine months of dating, neither of us ever came that I can remember.
    My first wife was absolutely NOT into oral. After she became pregnant with out first, she had problems getting wet. eventually I convinced her to just lay back and let me at it. From then on, it was A-OK. Most times it took a bit of oral to get her going, and I cannot remember a time later in our marriage when she came with out oral. reciproscity was not with her. She would receive, but refused to give AT ALL. She would barely touch it, let alone allow it near her face. She also had certain things she liked and did not like. I could not stick a finger into her vag although her anus, during sex was OK. There were times that she just wouldn’t come until I stimulated her #2.
    Wife #2, entirely diffrent. She loves oral, and now, with her health problems, regular sex is not possible. The last time we did oral, she had multiple orgasms. She likes to have a finger in her as well, but if she goes into a seizure, it can be quite painful for me. She will tighten down to where I cannot pull the finger out, and her pelvic muscles bend it toward her bladder, so sideways for me.
    I presently have a girl friend. She is not into oral very much. She is very hung up about her smell. When I do get the pleasure, she does not like a finger inside. She likes to fuck, and three sessions a day are not enough. Yes, she orgasms, and usually multiple times each time, and after an hour of great sex, she is usually ready for more.
    What I enjoy most in oral is the 69. Again, the taste and smell are big turn ons for me. I have never come in a womans mouth, and would not with out permission. I like light fast strokes with the tongue. Hard sucking is a high speed deflator for me. So when its my turn to enjoy, flat on my back with her on top, that way all the slobber isn’t wasted on the bed sheets.

  23. May 12, 2010 7:56 am

    I miss our late night chats too! I had to all but give up live chat thanks to the RSI injury in my drawing arm, which means I have to keep typing to a minimum. A post here and there on a blog is fine, but live chat kills me now. Kinda sucks, right?

    I do check in here every week, but don’t comment as much as I should. Keep up the great work! I love what you’re doing.

  24. Bill permalink
    May 27, 2010 9:37 am


    I am SO fortunate that my lady loves to suck my cock! I personally do not prefer the “teasing” that is usually depicted in porn. Kissing or licking the head of my cock might LOOK erotic, but what FEELS good is the SUCKING (in and out movement of my cock in my partner’s mouth). Fortunately my lady is a GREAT cocksucker! Each time I watch and FEEL her bless me with this pleasure, I marvel at my good fortune!

    And as an added bonus, my lady does swallow my cum! I do sometimes like to watch my ejaculation and my lady has allowed me to shoot on her face and all over her massive tits and has allowed me to photograph and videotape these cum shots. I really wouldn’t mind if, when I come in her mouth, she would spit or let all of my cum ooze from her mouth. Her swallowing is an emotional turn-on for me – knowing she WANTS to ingest my cum into her body. It’s almost like the ultimate acceptance of my sexuality.

    I suppose this issue of coming in my lady’s mouth is magnified by the fact that my ex-wife seemed repulsed by my ejaculate. She never took my cum in her mouth – except for ONE time back in the 70’s when she allowed me to orgasm in her mouth and then ran to the bathroom sink, spit it out, and then gargled with mouthwash. Although she never hesitated to suck my cock, I never wanted to offend her again. I respected her wishes to not ejaculate in her mouth. When she sucked my cock, I would warn her that I was going to cum, and she would take her mouth off my cock and stroke my cock as we watched the eruption.

    Even today when my lady blesses me with a blow job, out of respect I always warn her when I am going to cum. I want her to be prepared for my ejaculation.

    My cum is an important part of our life together. She WANTS my cum and tells me to give it to her when we fuck. Her telling me that is VERY erotic and her saying those words often pushes me over the edge. I feel it is HER cum, and I make sure to give her every drop. It BELONGS in her body, and I love to shoot it inside her (either her mouth or her cunt). After sex, it is erotic knowing that my cum is inside her (her pussy or her stomach). She also enjoys having that part of me inside her – my liquid love for her.

    Although I don’t mind tasting my precum, I have no desire to taste my cum. After I cum in my lady’s mouth, she respects my wishes to not taste my own cum and waits a while to kiss me.

    I have NO reservations about tasting HER. She is very hygiene conscious, and she ALWAYS tastes GOOD! I LOVE to taste and swallow her wetness!

    Fortunately for me, she loves the way I eat her. I love to bury my face between her legs and give her oral pleasure. When I do this, we both know she is going to “give it up” for me. I kiss her beautiful sex and breathe in her aroma. I am in NO hurry and tenderly begin licking her wetness. I use my tongue to continuously circle her aroused clit. I enjoy the whole sensory experience tremendously! I am in NO hurry for her to reach orgasm. I love her aroma, her taste, her wetness, the smooth silky texture of her clitoral skin against my tongue, the softness of her pussy hair caressing my face, her sighs and moans of pleasure, the gentle guidance of her hands on my head as she holds me against her crotch and caresses me giving me perfect feedback to help her reach her orgasmic pleasure! And when she climaxes, I lovingly keep my tongue against her super-sensitive clitoris as she allows me to share her most intimate pleasure. I experience as much pleasure from helping her climax as I do from my own orgasm.

    Both my ex-wife and ex-girlfriend used to enjoy when I’d go down on them. But they preferred that I would finger fuck their pussies while I ate them. I used to use my middle finger or several fingers to rub their g-spot area as I licked their clitoral area, and that was what pushed them over the edge.

    I loved going down on my ex-wife and on my ex-girlfriend, but it is more comfortable and relaxing giving my lady oral pleasure the way she likes it, because I don’t have to work my fingers into her cunt. Thus I can take my time and more fully enjoy the whole experience of giving oral pleasure to the love of my life.

    My lady is wonderfully adept at fondling my cock, both when it is flaccid and when it is aroused. She is not inhibited at all doing this and never hesitates to enjoy OUR cock – especially was we sleep naked in bed together every night. She has told me she had never done that before with any of her previous lovers, which makes it that much more special – that she feels that TOTAL comfort with me. I LOVE her gentle touch as she fondles my balls and shaft somehow know exactly what feels for good to me!

    When I am flaccid and she lovingly fondles my manhood, I feel her total acceptance me in a non-sexual way. When I become aroused and she fondles our sex toy, I have this overwhelming desire to PENETRATE her because my erect manhood BELONGS inside this woman. And when I am inside her, I have this strong desire to fill her with my seed – and we BOTH want that! As we fuck, it is erotic for me to think about how the cum inside my body will momentarily be injected directly into hers. Then as my orgasm explodes sending waves of intense pleasure throughout my body, I feel my man juice squirting through my hard cock as she feels my manhood throbbing inside her filling her cunt with my warm liquid. I cherish how she lovingly welcomes my sperm into her beautiful body as her pussy milks every drop from deeply inserted sex organ.

    This sacred act of sex has again made me HER man as much as it has made her MY woman. Our bodies remained joined in love even after our copulation has ended. Only reluctantly do I withdraw my spent flaccid penis from her cum filled vagina. I love her SO much!


  25. Vixey permalink
    June 1, 2010 1:27 am

    Bill, I loved your rendition of your love for your girlfriend, communicated so primitively through sex. It sounds like love to me! Lucky you :9

  26. Bill permalink
    June 13, 2010 7:31 am

    Thanks, Vixey. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I realize I am VERY blessed!

    I liked how you phrased that – “communicated so primitively through sex.” 🙂 For the first time in my life, I understand that the true purpose of sex (other than for procreation) is to express LOVE. Unfortunately I believe many people NEVER experience love. 😦 And you are right, it IS primitive how I yearn to insert my erect cock into her, not just for the physical pleasure, but because I BELONG inside her!

    I enjoy writing about how we share our love sexually; I have a private blog where I write freely. If you would be interested in reading it, email me at and I’ll give you the password.

    Take care.


  27. Kathleen permalink
    March 18, 2011 5:48 pm

    Thankyou, Bill, for the porn. ❤

  28. Kathleen permalink
    March 20, 2011 9:28 am

    Well, I had to do some thinking about this one because I really like a lot of stuff.
    But, I’ve decided that my favorite is when someone uses their whole tounge from back to tip and starts with and upward arc rubbing against my clitoris and then cuppong my clitoris (giving some suction) as they lick backwards. And then they just keep doing that continuously, kind of like rythmic ocean waves or something. That’s my favorite because
    a) it feels fantastic
    b) the tounge moves a lot and touches the labia and other parts of the vulva while still focusing on my clitoris. I like it when my clitoris is the main focus when receiving oral.
    and c) it makes the whole experience last longer than with fast flicking motions. Like, it really draws out the build-up to climax. Which is really yummy.

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