Men Change Diapers Too!
I was at the hospital today waiting to see the doc. The wait was so long that when the nurse called out Olga and then paused before saying the last name, I took it for granted that she was calling me. I had already seen the triage nurse, but I thought it was my time to see the doc. I was wrong, by the time I was standing in front of her she was still struggling to say the last name of the prospective patient and when the nurse saw me she looked confused and stammered “I already saw you didn’t I?” She called out asking for another Olga all together. Surprised, I looked at her and all I could say was “there’s two of us?” before sitting my ass back down.
Two Olga’s waiting in the same emergency room, what are the odds of that? She was an older woman, short with purple tinged dyed hair. Not exactly a reflection of myself. I don’t know what I was expecting, maybe for a second I thought there were actually two of us in the world. I always feel strange when people tell me I look like someone they know. For a second, I feel like my identity is being threatened. I wonder if I might have a doppelgänger floating around in this big wide world.
These were the thoughts floating around in my mind when I headed for the bathroom. Thankfully the women’s bathroom wasn’t very far, I was afraid I might miss my turn while taking a piss. When I was in there I noticed a baby changing table. The reason I paid special attention to it is that about an hour earlier there was a couple with two kids waiting to see the doctor and the father asked the nurse if he could use one of the back rooms to change the baby’s diaper. Nothing strange there, only I wondered why he didn’t just use the baby changing table in the bathroom. Of course, I figured he might not have been comfortable coming into the woman’s bathroom or maybe he just didn’t know it was there in the first place, which led me to think that men don’t have diaper changing tables in their bathrooms, do they? I’ve seen a few men’s bathroom’s over the years and not once do I recall seeing a baby changing table.
Isn’t that odd? Well, I suppose it isn’t when you consider that women have been considered to be the primary child takers for a very long time. Changing a kid’s diaper is a chick job after all, right? Were not supposed to say that anymore or that’s not the way things are supposed to be anymore is the story we’re told. Fathers ARE taking a more involved role in child rearing these days. After all, no one can do it all, no matter how much they wish we would, and since women are no longer relinquished to the kitchen, at least in theory, they can’t be expected to rear children all by themselves and also lead well-rounded existences outside of the home, which means that men have taken up a bigger role in the home. Shouldn’t it follow that these changes also be reflected within our infrastructures?
It’s clear that there’s still a lot of change to be achieved before these very notions are ingrained into every facet of society. We still live in a world where someone has to come along, take notice, and tell whoever designs public bathrooms that men change diapers too!