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The Encyclopedia of Erotic Wisdom: Orgasm

January 20, 2010

I bought a used copy of The Encyclopedia of Erotic Wisdom for ten bucks and since I’m low on the inspiration today here’s their definition of orgasm: 

Orgasm (greek, “to swell with wetness”) In everyday language and imagery, the idea of orgasm is all too often associated, even equated with ejaculation. However, ancient and contemporary research shows quite clearly that these two sexual, erotic states are separate. Although they often occur almost simultaneously, especially for men, it is better we disassociate them in our minds and remind ourselves that the succession of arousal states occurs in the following manner in both women and men: 


  1. swelling (engorgement of genital parts by blood)
  2. contractions (muscle events) 
  3. orgasm (psychosomatic energy event) 
  4. ejaculation (fluidic and energy event) 
  5. deflation (drainage of blood, relaxation) 

According to Lowndes-Sevely, the time lag between events three and four is longer in women and the main reason for the well-known fact – or so one hopes – that orgasm is achieved in different ways in men and women, with different approach times and peaks. 

The Chinese have long since known about these differences in male and female pre- and postorgasmic states of affairs. The man’s yang energy is htought of as li, or fire, whereas the woman’s yin energy corresponds to k’an, or water. Fire according to Chinese physicians and alchemists, easily flares up in great heat, but is easily and quickly extinguished by water. Water, however, takes quite a long time to become heated up over fire, but it will also cool down only very slowly. In the ancient I Ching these two elements, when combined in their proper order with water above fire, form into the hexagram chi chi and signify “completion”. 

The question as to whether or not there are vaginal and/or clitoral and/or G-spot orgasms is still not resolved and becomes superfluous when we consider the yoni as a synergetic and holistic system. 

I like the fact that the Greek root of the word orgasm is “to swell with wetness”. To quote Paris Hilton (please forgive me), that’s hot! I’m interested in your own personal definitions of orgasm. Leave your comments telling me how you would describe what it means to you to have an orgasm and it’s relation (if any) to ejaculation. 

9 Comments leave one →
  1. Wayne permalink
    January 20, 2010 6:14 pm

    Orgasm, even in a male, is a combination of both physiologic and pshychologic. For a male, it is entirely possible to orgasm without ejaculation, such as durring what we might call a “marathon” session of sexual activity when the body eventualy depletes the amount of available fluids to epel. The mind can still get the “rush” of the final stages of stimulation, and in my experience the physical sensations are still there when I reach climax. A male can acheive orgasm even if his penis is not in the tumescent stage. Ejacualtion is only one aspect of climax, only one stage of the whole process of sexual arrousal, stimulation, and then fulfillment.

  2. January 21, 2010 7:42 am

    Wayne, I concur.

  3. January 21, 2010 10:02 am

    “to swell with wetness”
    Yes! I like that. It is hot.

  4. January 21, 2010 1:28 pm

    To Swell with Wetness is hot. Sounds like an erotic story…

    I know a woman who can orgasm by thinking about it. Strange but true. She was recently put in a study which involved getting a cat scan, so they could see what brain activity is involved with orgasm. They picked her because you can’t move when undergoing cat scans, so her ability to think it without physical manipulation was key to the tests. They are using the finding to find out if paraplegics can induce orgasm by just thinking it. Pretty amazing. I’m hoping to interview her soon for my blog 🙂

  5. January 21, 2010 4:13 pm

    That’s cool. I remember reading about that in high school, that some women could orgasm by just thinking about it or even orgasm by just having their nipples stimulated. I think back then I wanted to program my mind to do that, but I gave up pretty quickly. I feel like that possibility is somehow related to the trance states that you can achieve through meditation. Apparently our minds register the same wave lengths when we orgasm as when we’re in a deep state of meditation. I’m actually gonna write about that soon.

  6. naturegirl1 permalink
    January 22, 2010 4:21 am

    When I was a student the first time round, I was at a party (one of the many….!) & probably slightly high, in the usual place (the kitchen) chatting to my friends and somehow the conversation drifted off into male orgasm. This one guy claimed he could achieve orgasm, ie ejaculate, by the power of thought alone without any physical stimulation.
    Half a dozen intrigued students, of both sexes, trooped upstairs to the bathroom where this chap promptly dropped his jeans & underpants & sat on the edge of the bath tub. We watched, first of all in silence, but when not much happened the ribbing started. He told us to shut up as it was spoiling his concentration and sure enough after quite a while, his penis started to stir & when it reached what I would call a partial errection, he ejaculated!
    Quite extraordinary!!

  7. January 23, 2010 8:33 pm

    Guys: That’s cool. Would you like to explain to us ladies how it FEELS?

    Naturegirl: That is beyond believe amazing! Now, that’s a party trick I would like to see. I wonder what his no-touch orgasm felt like or what he thought about to make himself cum that way!!!!

  8. Wayne permalink
    January 23, 2010 8:52 pm

    How does an Orgasm feel? Now there’s a challenge to my verbal (as opposed to oral) skills! It can feel many diferent ways, but I think for me the common theme would be a small sensation not unlike what you feel is your stomach and diaphram when you top a hill in a moving vehicle, combined with an intense endorphin charge to the brain, and the muscle contractions are a lot like what you would feel when if you are trying to contract your bladder, only with no sense of urgent need to evacuate, which is somewhat counterintuative I know. Some tantric exercises for men talk about learning how to RELAX the bladder control muscles in order to delay ejaculation, and not only does it work it also intensifies the sensations when you finaly do ejaculate. Of course, none of this even addresses the emotional or mental sensations, which will vary greatly depending on who, if anyone, you are with, and your emotional attachment and level of involvement with that person. Also, let’s not discount the value of just jerking one off to relieve physical need!

  9. January 24, 2010 2:46 pm

    Thanks, that’s a pretty good explanation.

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