To Expose or Not to Expose?
In theatre, too much exposition is a sign of a bad play. It takes you out of the moment, out of the experience, and makes you aware that what you are watching is not “real”, but staged. When telling a story, you have to set up some boundaries, you have to set up a context so the audience will understand what it happening, but it should be intuitive. A good playwright will show the audience instead of telling the audience about the characters that are unfolding in front of their eyes.
I think the same can be said about the ways in which we choose to communicate with others in our daily lives. It is especially true when meeting someone for the first time, whether you’re on a first date, making a new friend or even on a job interview, you suddenly become aware of what you should and how much you should reveal about yourself.
Laura Roberts, fellow blogger and editor-in-chief of Black Heart Magazine, recently (uh, back in September, that’s recent, right?) wrote about a similar topic on her personal blog Button Tapper. The article in question, Don Draper vs Anaïs Nin on blogging, transparency and trust, posed some interesting questions regarding how much a person should expose about themselves, using the mystery that is Don Draper versus the open diary that is Anaïs Nin as a backdrop for questions about self-exposure.
I know a lot of you (dear readers) are also bloggers, quite of few of you from the sex blogging community and as far as the subject of sex and sexuality is concerned many of us in this field are pretty comfortable with self-exposure. It goes with the territory. There are people that consider the exposition of such private subjects crass in its nature and there are those that would consider that to hold such a view is a sign of repression. Luckily most people aren’t set in one camp or another, but instead feel out each communication and situation as it arises, making the choice of just how much to reveal as they go along.
This is what I was thinking about while eating breakfast this morning and I would be really interested in knowing what you all think about it. How much are you willing to expose (sexually, physically, mentally, emotionally) about yourself to each new person in your life? How much are you willing to be exposed to? In the end, how much about yourself do you reveal and what do you want to know about each person you interact with? And how does this relate to your lives, public and private, and how you relate to yourself as an individual?