Getting to Know Someone Else’s Vagina & More
As you may or may not know, Cuntlove has a survey about vaginas and things relating to vaginas for people to answer and submit. What will come from all of this I am not quite sure, but in the meantime, I think others would enjoy and learn from other people’s responses to these questions. So, with Naturegirl’s permission, I present to you everything you’ve ever wanted to know about a stranger’s vagina and much much more.
Q: Do you love your vagina?
A: Not as much as I should, I think it’s starting to look old!
Q: What do you mean, by it’s stating to look old? What is about the way it looks that you think makes it look old?
A: My labia looks “loose” & flabby, no longer tight like it was just a few years ago.
Q: Do other people love your vagina?
A: They seem to!
Q: Are you afraid that your lover won’t love your vagina? The way it tastes, the way it feels, the way it looks, the way it smells?
A: Not yet.
Q: Have you ever looked at it? Why and in what context? How old where you? How did you react?
A: I have so many photos of it I can’t avoid seeing sometimes! I have no qualms about seeing it, never have.
Q: Do you feel comfortable showing your vagina to your lover or other people?
A: Absoluetly, why be ashamed or embarrassed about parts of our anatomy.
Q: Can you talk about it openly? Is there a time and a place for this topic? Is it off limits?
A: I talk about it openly, but not in front of the children!
Q: What sort of sexual discourse do you have with your children? Meaning, do you guys talk about sex at all and how do (or have) you approach it?
A: We have a very open & honest relationship with our children (one no longer lives at home anyway, he’s 22!), we have aways had an open door policy: they could come in to which ever room I or my husband was in to ask whatever they wanted & we would give an honest & straight answer (I have had many earnest conversations with either of my sons while soaking in the bathtub!). The only time they had to knock was when the bedroom door was closed!! But the one thing I have kept back (for obvious reasons) is the hubby & i have dabbled in swinging a few times. That was between 3 & 8 years ago & is nothing to do with the kids.
Click on the read more link to read the rest of Naturegirl’s answers.
Q: In what way do you think the vagina has been portrayed in the past?
A: In some cultures, very well, but in western culture, mostly as an object of shame or low morals.
Q: How has the representation of pussy in porn affected your view of your vagina and of vaginas in general?
A: I wish they (pornographers) would be kinder to our vaginas!
Q: Kinder in what way?
A: Some of the imagery is often quite brutal, fisting for instance, or slapping the vagina in general….Why?
Q: Are these representations different in mainstream media? (Think of all the jokes in sitcoms or movies that disparage woman and their anatomy.)
A: Good lord, yes!
Q: Strong answer. Can you elaborate?
A: The brutality is missing, sex is portrayed more “normally” (ie Sex in the City!)
Q: What is the mythology of the cunt in your own life? What did you learn from your mom, you aunt, your older sister, your friends, your teachers, and men?
A: I learned diddly squat from my mum, my friends (male & female) were more helpful, but my aunt who is a bit of a hippy was the most helpful. Then my husband is a real gem when it comes to helping me with my bits!
Q: What views and representations do you love and which ones would you like to change?
A: Ooh dear, hard to answer.
Q: Do you have a name for it?
A: Here in the uk fanny is the widely used term for our vaginas, otherwise pussy!
Q: Does your lover have a name for it (past or present)?
A: See above!
Q: Are there words that you donít like and why? Some examples: vagina, vag, pussy, cunt, peachfish, etc
A: Not too keen on cunt.
Q: So how do you feel about the name of my blog?
A: I accept that it is the word you have chosen.
Q: Which names do you like?
Q: What is a vagina to you?
A: My most treasured female organ, along with my boobs.
Q: Where is the clit? Where’s the g-spot? How did you find it? How can others find it?
A: Clit: just above my urehra, G-spot: about a finger’s length up inside my vagina on the anterior wall.
Q: What is your vagina good for? What purpose does it have?
A: A conduit. For childbearing, for intercourse, for my monthly bleed…
Q: Tell me where it ISN’T? Where have people mistakenly gone to look for your clit? For your g-spot?
A: Never had that problem!
Q: How does your vagina smell? Describe it. Do you like it?
A: Depends on so many factors!!!!
Q: Which factors?
A: Let’s face it, the morning after a night of passion leaves one with a vagina that smells more like 3 day old fish rather than the pleasant musky aroma of an aroused vagina!
Q: Have you ever tasted it?
A: Yes, on my husbands lips & penis as well as my own fingers.
Q: How concerned are you about its cleanliness? Why?
A: I am quite fastidious about hygiene, intimate or otherwise!
Q: Have you ever used baby wipes or any other kind of wipes?
A: No, just mild soap & water.
Q: Have you ever used a douche and how do you feel about them?
Useful after inetrcourse, used one on holiday in France.
Q: Do you ever feel inhibited if your lover wants to go down on you?
Q: Do you alter your pubic hair in any way?
Q: Do you trim? Shave? Wax? Laser?
Q: Do you do it yourself or do you pay to get it done?
A: Mostly myself, or get hubby to do it. Once tried sugaring by a beauty consultant.
Q: Do you have any recommendations on how to avoid in-grown hairs?
A: Keep shaving!
Q: Tell us about your first experience getting waxed or your worst or your favorite.
A: Found sugaring excruciating! Never again & my bits looked awful after.
Q: Describe your period.
A: Now days, at 52, very unpleasant!
Q: Unpleasant how?
A: Lasts for more than a week, assuming I have a period at all! Usually very heavy & painful.
Q: What products do you use: tampons, pads, cups, sea sponges?
A: Tampons &/or panty liners.
Q: How do you feel about having to bleed every month?
A: It’s no longer every month for me, I wish the menopause would hurry up & end!
Q: Tell me about your first period? What you knew? What you didn’t?
A: It terrified me, my mum gave me no warning & just told me to “get a grip” when it happened. I was about 12!
Q: Were you able to get a “grip”?
A: After talking to a female teacher at school, yes.
Q: What do you wish you knew back then?
A: What to expect, specially the pain.
Q: How do you wish menstruating was perceived in our society?
A: As a normal bodily function.
Q: Do you get psm? How would you characterize it? How do you deal with the effects of it?
A: I used to get very moody, nowdays just tired. But I get a burst of sexual energy on my 1st day!
Q: Pap tests, pap tests, pap tests. What are your gyno stories?
A: Mostly good ones, I have a very good & understanding female doctor!
Q: How often do you get them?
A: Probably not frequently enough!
Q: How did you experience losing your virginity? 1st time actual intercourse?
A: I was only just 15 when I lost my virginity, that is the first time I had actual intercourse. I had been sexually precocious long before that, I found that letting boys (and one girl!) see & touch my various body parts was a great way to attract their attention!! In my case, I was on holiday with my then best friend & her parents & we met these two boys who were 17/18ish. They had a car so to a couple of impressionable 15 year olds they were the epitome of cool! We dressed up to make ourselves look older, we convinced them we were 16 & spent nearly every evening of that two week holiday in their company. On the last evening my friend & i were heart broken at the thought of leaving to return to London & imagined that the guys were too, though they were probably looking forward to their next conquests if the truth be told! We ended up going for a walk across some fields overlooking the sea & the four of us lay down in the grass to get down to some serious necking. My friend & I allowed the boys to go quite far but when my guy produced a condom I thought ” this is it, this is as good a time to loose my virginity as any”, so I let him pull my panties right off (they wre already half way down my thighs anyway!). As he did so, I looked accross at my friend who was looking daggers back at me. She clearly didn’t approve of what I was doing, but I’m affraid that teenage hormones had taken over by then! I can’t say it was at all painfull, I think my hymen had been anihilated some time ago! It was all over too quickly though.
Q: How did it change you relationship with your vagina?
A: Not much changed really, the boy wore a condom so no mess was involved.
Q: How did it feel?
A: Not as good as I hoped, but nice nonetheless. It was over too quickly.
Q: What was the experience of giving birth like?
A: F**king painfull!!! Both my boys were large babies & both were natural births.
Q: How did it change the way you view your cunt, and your body in general?
A: Made me a bit more reserved about being so uninhibited sexually, but other wise I carried on being a naturist.
Q: What do you mean by naturist?
A: Hubby & I like to sunbathe/swim nude (naturism). We have always been very relaxed & comfortable with nudity. When he first met me I was a nude model for an art class in an adult education college!
Q: Did this experience change how you experience being a woman?
A: Undoubtedly, I felt complete.
Q: What effects has it had on your body?
A: So far, very erratic periods, some lasting 2 or 3 weeks, some so light I hardly need tampons, others so heavy I flood in a matter of minutes!
Q: How has menopause changed you?
A: Made me fed up!
Q: What do you wish you had known before?
A: I was prepared.
Q: How did you prepare yourself?
A: Read as much as possible, plus I have 2 or 3 woman friends who are older than me. They are a source of help.
Q: What would you like others to know?
A: It’s nothing to be afraid of but I’m still not fully through it yet!
Q: How do you feel about not having the ability to get pregnant anymore?
Q: Does that change how you feel as a woman?
A: It’s all downhill from here!
Q: Really, how come?
A: Psychologically, I no longer produce eggs, quite a devastating step to me! Plus my boobs are starting to loose their firmness, my middle is spreading, I sometimes need to use vaginal lubricant… need I go on?!
Q: When did you first discover masturbation?
A: Not sure, but I was very young & very precocious!
Q: How often do you masturbate?
A: Varies, once or twice a week sometimes, sometimes not for weeks.
Q: Did you ever feel shameful about masturbating?
A: No, not really.
Q: Why do you masturbate? (i.e. horny, can’t sleep, etc)
All of those. Also as part of foreplay with my husband, he likes to watch!
Q: What methods do you use? Have they changed with time?
A: Fingers, a vibrator to finish myself off.
Q: Do you get off vaginally or clitorally?
Q: Have you ever had a g-spot orgasm?
Q: What does your vulva look like?
A: Not as nice as it used to these days!
Q: How has it changed with time?
A: See answers above, looks saggy. I look at photos of my vagina now & compare it to photos from only 5 or 6 years ago & I see a difference.
Q: Do you have any insecurities about the way it looks? (i.e. one lip is bigger then the other)
A: No, just wish it didn’t look like a 52 year old vagina!
Q: Or do you love all those little difference about yourself?
Q: Are their parts of your body that you just aren’t sure about? As in you might wonder, is it normal that…? But you’ve just never asked anyone.
A: Not nowdays.
Q: How do you achieve an orgasm?
A: After intercourse usually, I use my vibrator while my husband stimulates my Gspot for me.
Q: Have you ever achieved an orgasm?
A: Oh yes, never failed to.
Q: Do you ever fake it?
Q: When did you first achieve an orgasm?
A: Can’t remember that, too far back.
Q: What does it feel like?
A: An out of body experience!!!!
Q: Do you get different kinds of orgasms?
A: I suppose so.
Q: How does you body react?
A: My clitoris & Gspot/labia become a “no go” area. (too sensitive)
Q: How does it make you feel?
Sometimes sleepy, always happy, occasionally hungry!
Q: How did it match up to your expectations?
A: It does now!
Q: Do you squirt when you cum?
A: Yes, sometimes copiously!
Q: Do you like squirting?
Q: Are you ever concerned that it might be pee?
A: Not these days.
Q: When did it first happen to you?
A: A proper “spurt” after the birth of my 1st, my midwife insited I did pelvic floor exercises (kegel). I was amazed at what a difference they did for my whole genital region!
Q: What were the difference that you noticed?
A: My husband told me he could feel my vaginal contractions more after I toned up my pelvic floor muscles, and as I said my ejaculations spurted out rather than dribbled out the way they did before.
Q: Is it totally out of your control or can you make it happen when you want?
A: It’s spontaneous but I can usually “perform” with enough stimulation.