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There’s Nothing Wrong With Our Genitals

October 30, 2009

pc-242I‘ve had so many conversations with women who have felt that their genitals where deformed in some way or another, or at the very least not a representation of the status-quo. One person I know, had been told by an ex-sexual partner that her clit was quite predominant, which led her to question her genitals in a way that she had never considered before. When another friend was telling us how her inner labia hung lower than her outer labia, I started to question why mine didn’t do that. I wondered if my inner labia were too small. 

I’ve had many similar questions about my vulva: Was it too hairy? Where my lips too big? Was my clit too small? Was my pubic bone too prominent? How did it smell? How did it taste? From looking at my brother’s porn magazines, I determined that the entrance to my vagina had too many folds or that it looked wrinkly, or too stretchy, something I thought I was worsening by masturbating. Yup, I was concerned that my selflovin’ habits were going to make my pussy look prematurely old or used in some way. 

I’m not the only one, I know I’m not. This is a problem.

The anatomical representation we are shown in sex ed classes and the typical playboy layout just don’t cut it, not only do we need to expose ourselves to a wider representation of the human body, but we also need to work at dispelling the kind of myths that only work at disheartening the sexual self-esteem of countless generations of kids. There is still way too much fear when it comes to talking about your own body, and your sexuality with others. 

A fourteen year old girl who has a yeast infection, shouldn’t be at a complete loss as to what is happening to her or too embarrassed to talk about it with anybody else and/or to go see a doctor. I’ve never had a yeast infection, but when I was 12-13, I questioned every single vaginal discharge I had and despite all the literature I had been exposed to, I still had no idea what was supposed to be “normal”. 

Not long after I’d lost my virginity, I developed a sore about one quarter of an inch above the right side of my clitoral hood. It was about the size of a big marble. It hurt. The part which was apparent on the surface was red with a purple tinge. I was fifteen and I had absolutely no idea what the hell was wrong with me. There was no way in hell I was going to talk to my mother about it, because I thought I would have to tell her I was no longer a virgin and I didn’t want to deal with that. I told one friend about it. I was so scared. I remember the scene perfectly, she told me not to worry about it and that it was probably just a bruise or a pimple or something.

I didn’t believe that to be true, but I didn’t know how to explain myself. So, I never brought it up again and dealt with it on my own, which is to say, I did absolutely nothing about it. The strange bump lasted about two days, and then it burst open, one night when I was asleep, and it released a bunch of liquid. It healed itself and left a tiny little scar that you wouldn’t even notice unless I pointed it out to you. The thing is, I still don’t know what it was. I’ve subsequently been tested for STDs and my vulva has never again shown any similar sores.

I kept it to myself and I hoped it would just go away and even though it did, for a long time, I had this little nagging fear at the edge of my mind that I couldn’t silence. Nobody should live like that! It was probably just a cyst or an infected pore, but I will never know for sure, will I? I should have gone to see a doctor, but instead I lived in uncertainty and waited too long to do anything about it. 

We have to stop believing that their is something wrong with us! There’s nothing “abnormal” about our genitals and if there’s something to be concerned about, see a doctor! 

3 Comments leave one →
  1. October 31, 2009 7:30 am

    I’ve met quite a few cunts up close and personal in my life, and there isn’t a single one that I didn’t find quite beautiful. But a lot of the girls/women had concerns about how they looked, especially younger girls and inexperienced ones. It mostly was about the lips, too big, too small, too protruding, too hidden…… I did my best to reassure them that they were just fine and beautiful.

    I remember one in particular. She was worried that her cunt was too “bald”, she had the cutest natural coiffure I’ve ever seen, shaped like a perfect little heart. I think that at the end of our tryst she was quite satisfied with her cunt. 😉

    And now I eagerly await my GRS (Genital Reconstruction Surgery) in March/April when I finally will get a cunt of my own. Whatever it will look like I’m sure I’ll love it.

    A couple of years ago a female artist here in Sweden published a book containing nothing but pictures of cunts in all shapes and sizes. A book like that is something that every girl should have free in school. It could probably prevent a lot of worries and anxiety.

  2. October 31, 2009 5:08 pm

    There are similar books that abound all over the place (well ok, not that many, but they exist), in the 70’s The Cunt Coloring Book was published. It’s still around and it really is a cunt coloring book. I agree though, every girl (and boy) should have a copy of a book that depicts the reality of our genitals.

    I know, it’s sad, but it’s true that a lot of women have concerns about the way their genitals look and hopefully more people who love cunts of all kinds will come out and show their love.

  3. Kathleen permalink
    March 20, 2011 3:17 pm

    Tagging along the comment line here:
    Girl, boy, and intersex person.

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